Permanent Ink, Permanent Scars

Proverbs 25:11
A word fitly spoken is like apples of golden in pictures of silver.

Writing, writing, writing. Texting, texting, texting. We are doing it all the time. We are becoming a non-verbal society. It’s as if we are mute. First it was e-mail, then texting & now social media. Social media? What is it really?
Social Media (noun plural but singular or plural in construction) forms of electronic communication through which users create online communities to share information, ideas, personal messages & other content.
Online communities? That even sounds weird. We “friend”, we “unfriend”. Some even feel the need to announce that they are going to have an “unfriending” day. It’s like being in the third grade again, hoping to get an invitation to a birthday party. “Unfriend” quietly, please. We block, we follow, we unfollow. It’s just all so unnatural.

Now don’t get me wrong. I love sharing on Facebook. My life is sunshine everyday, a much needed rain in the afternoon & then a rainbow right before a beautiful sunset. NOT! “Life” on Facebook isn’t real. Sure I share prayer requests & encourage others that are going through difficult times. But there is something missing, and I believe it is personal contact. Seeing a persons face in a conversation is important. Cluing into their body language & embracing them with a hug can’t be shared on Facebook.

The scariest thing to me is realizing that my writings are in “permanent ink”. My words will live on forever. Same with e-mails. This writing will become our legacy & how we will be remembered. Think about it. When we are gone this will be evidence of our existence. Words that are spoken can never be taken back. Words in writing are permanent ink. Some seem to find great joy in setting others straight through messages, but would cowardly walk away if confronted face to face. This is what we seem to be forgetting how to do. Relationships can’t be restored unless you see each other face to face & shake each others hands.

This is the same with spoken words. Words that have been spoken are recorded in the mind. They are replayed even after forgiveness. They are permanent scars. When our name is mentioned, these will be the memories that they have of us. There have been many times that I have had to go back & apologize to my husband & children for unkind or harsh words. I can never go back & erase those words. They are there forever. All I can do is make it right & promise to never do it again.

Yes, there are times when we have to respond to those who have wronged us. Let it be direct & to the point. Listing all the wrongs, as I have determined through personal experience, doesn’t make you feel any better. It just brings up more animosity. Sometimes you just have to let it go & let God take care of it.

Proverbs 17:27
He that hath knowledge spareth (restrains)his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit.

 My New Year’s resolution is to spend more time with family & friends. It’s so much easier to just send a message. When Facebook first made its debut, I thought it was great. It saved me from being on the phone during my busy day. If I needed to tell someone something, it would just take me a few seconds to write them a quick text. Now I kind of miss talking on the phone. What if a friend really needed me to call her? One of my friends went through a difficult time last year. I wasn’t there for her. I regret that. I was too busy to be a good friend.
I always love to receive cards or notes from friends & family. I have kept every single one.

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